LundenTown

(2/5/15)
Some people are calling Mary Jane's pursuit of a man pathetic. And, if you look closely, I can see why. Although I cried on this episode, it is hard to watch her be so obsessed. Are we really like that? She sat at work on auto-pilot thinking of him. She butt-dialed him drunk. She harassed all their mutual friends and got irate with her projection.

Why do we fall into the trap that by a certain age we should be married with kids? While I feel like I should pop one out by 33, I also wouldn't mind dating until 73 and getting married in the south of France like Tina Turner. In reality, her lifestyle isn't conducive to starting a family. David knows this. Hell, she dumped him for CNN!

I don't think she is pathetic for chasing the dream because when you are ready for love, you gotta go at it. However, it doesn't match her powerhouse personality to seem so needy. I would have more respect for her if she didn't try so hard. You're a man's dream, but no one wants a girl that clingy. That shit gets old real fast and they lose attraction. I know I lose attraction when men are all up under me. Where you going? What you doing? Uggh!

I just think she shouldn't try so hard. Put it out there that you're ready for love and let them come to you. Yes, there will be a few more rejects coming your way than you'd like but damn MJ, relax! I say, enjoy being single while you can. Guys love girls that love themselves. It gets lonely sometimes but you shouldn't give up all your standards just to cuddle. That too will pass.

She made a good point: archival penis can be tricky on the heart. That nipped my feelings for THE SOLDIER in the bud. I kept mulling over whether or not I should go back there and try again. Nope. He is the past and that is where the past belongs. It's never a good idea to go backwards. I know what I'm looking for and underneath all our romance are a ton of compromises I would be making. The stakes are too high to play with my heart. It's time to get to know a few new people. well, next year. It's time to get to know me.

Granted, Mary Jane may already know herself. Her life may be complete and all she needs is a family. But you can't go around judging everyone else's lifestyles and throwing shade. It seems like jealousy fuels her pursuit and not love. Nonetheless, the episode was very deep and very real. I just want to see her more powerful and less on the pathetic side.